7/25/2007

Dammit Oprah...

Posted by Solace In Hunger

Something I read on Oprah.com...

"We live in social systems -- families and neighborhoods, offices and nations -- that call for continuous, complex interconnection. Any person who undergoes a dramatic shift creates a ripple effect, requiring change from others around her.

The fact that you're reading this suggests that you're inclined toward personal growth. The problem, as you may have noticed, is that not everyone you know, love, or work with is overjoyed to tread the path of change along with you.

Because we are a species that fears the unknown, most people reject the continuous transformation that is human reality and try to lock others into predictable behavior. In short, anyone who thinks new thoughts or does new deeds is likely to garner disapproval and criticism from someone.

Women who are undergoing changes are likely to experience "change back" messages from their nearest and dearest. But change-back attackers aren't really thinking about the person they're pressuring. They're fighting for their lives --or at least life as they know it. These people are motivated not only by their own fear of change but by the pressure of other "puzzle pieces" that surround them. The force of a change-back attack has the weight of all those relationships. Resist successfully, and you may end up affecting people you'll never meet."

I guess that really is the whole deal with change isn't? To expand your network, open yourself to new people and experiences to enrich yourself with. I've talked before about needing to grow and living a full life to be able to contribute that back to my acting...to my craft. And to even to simply seek fulfillment. She realizes that too. I really wish I could have kept things with her as they were but we both realize that doing so we would be suspending ourselves in a dream. Not to say that what happened was not real but that there are bigger things to partake, a greater happiness to find, a greater truth to seek. She saved both of us by doing this...and to be true to myself in loving her...I should let her go. Only until now do I realize that she really did love me so much. I look forward to the day when we can reenter our lives as friends. Thank you so much Andrea for everything. I will always love you for who you are and who you will be. You're free...